Changes I had to make

From the minute our son was born in 2006 I've had help. Raising our son was never about what my job was as a mother or his job as a father, it was always shared and equal responsibility. Our son has never been seperated from either of his parents, unless it was a vacation. When my soul mate, Dajon was arrested this year it changed everything, but most of all it changed our son. Can you imagine going to bed and waking up wondering where your father is, the man who tucked you safely in the bed every night, the man who rocked you back to sleep in the middle of the night, the man who fixed your breakfast in the morning, before taking you to daycare. That's right you can't imagine it however I'm living it. Suddenly the tasks Dajon had became mine along with the tasks I already was doing. I now had to change my morning routine, the daycare schedule, and most importantly to me righ now, my status as a fulltime student, i am now part time. This delayed my graduation by a semester but I can live with that. When our son gets sick I can no longer tell the daycare to call his father or we make the decision that he is too sick to go to daycare. Now it doesn't matter he hs to go becuase i have to go to work. I now wake up 45 minutes earlier than what I had in the past becuase I now have to get our son dressed and take him to daycare. I no longer can make a last minute hair appointment and call home and say can you please pick up the baby from daycare! Those days are long gone but not a day goes by that I know Dajon feels the many "thank you's" i send his way.

Living with incarceration from the outside is just as hard as the living with it from the other side of the bars. It'sa daily struggle for everyone, because it doesn't just affect the inmate but it also affects the inmates children, parents, Aunts, Uncles and friends.