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I got a message from an associate who basically needed to let out some frustration. I was happy to read her thoughts and after I read them I realized her thoughts are real. She didn't want to hear I told you so from her friends and I am not the I told you so type of person. Her frustration is that she has a friend who is in prison, like myself, and she thought he had changed. I'm sure that happens a lot. I can't speak for her situation but I think she is learning on her own that her friend has not learned his lesson.

Dajon I can say with a huge smile has changed. I can say this because of the changes that had been made well before 2009 even came in but most importantly I can say it because of all the times he has gotten in trouble with the law, he has never said, I'm never coming back. He now knows and says he will never go back, and yes I believe him. He is missing precious years of our son's life. This is nothing new to him however he never wanted to go through missing these years with another child, but he is. As I have said before going to prison will take you away physically but only God can take you away mentally.

The will of the prisoner can not be the day he comes home from prison. The will to change and never go back has to be the day he goes to prison. Prison offers something a lot of people don't have, time to reflect on your entire life and the decisions you made to get to where you are today. Sure we can all do that but how many of us do it? Prison is not the time to feel sorry for yourself. The time for that was when you were doing the crime. Prison is not the time to fall in love with someone else; but the time to fall in love with yourself. Dajon is at a place in his life where he experienced a lot of great things in life that he never paid attention to in the past and he just watched it all be taken away. Dajon is in a state of mind where he is at peace with his mistakes and is ready to accept his punishment like a man and not like the coward he had been in the past. I use the word coward because that is what he says of himself, when he was doing wrong he was acting like a coward and not a man , and I must say I agree, and I'm thankful he figured it out on his own.

Dajon has made up in his mind that he is not going back and I have made up in my mind that I will help him in any way that I can to accomplish that. I will send him encouraging words, I'll send him topics to research. I'll ask him to write down his goals each month and what he wants out of life as a changed man. These are all things he has to work on now. He tried working on it after the fact last time and as we see he didn't focus very well.

So anytime you feel your loved one is not on track and has lost focus remind them why they are there and how they got there. Remind them that they have allowed man to take their freedom
and your support is based on the fact you and the family are expecting to see a change. If the prisoner never recognizes they did something wrong they name never feel the need to change. If they never accept responsibility they will always be separated by bars!